Here are 3 more steps to developing a happier marriage:
Stop finger-pointing.
Some people are habitual blamers. Regardless of the core issue, they want to know who started it. Some people are fixers - they don't care who did it; they just want a solution. If your partner is like this try something new - reassure him/her at the beginning of a discussion that s/he is not to blame; Let them know that you just needed to talk and get their valuable input. It won't be long before the two of you start to solve problems together.
Handle his ego with care.
Even when your tone is sweet and your message loving, husbands can be quick to feel criticized. It may be hard to believe that a simple request to rinse the dishes before loading them in the dishwasher could truly wound a big, tough guy. The truth is, any request to do things differently can be interpreted as criticism, even if you don't mean it that way. Instead, learn to talk about the problem rather than his actions. Not "When you don't rinse, the dishes stay dirty," but "I notice the dishes aren't getting very clean. Do you think it's the soap, or the dishwasher, or...?" He'll jump in and suggest rinsing them first.
Flirt, flirt, flirt.
A girl at school told my friend's son that he was "really hot." My husband said rather wistfully, "I wish someone would tell me that!" Men love being adored, and it's fun to adore your man. Sneak your hand into his at a party. Whisper a sexy thought in his ear. Or just tell him that, to you, he's really hot.
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