Today is my birthday so my husband has set me up with a full day at the Nordstrom Spa. He didn't tell me what he had arranged until we got to San Francisco. I told him that he made a great decision.
Everyone needs time away from the daily grind once in a while, even from each other.
Even in the best relationships couples need to pay attention to themselves on a regular basis - to re-charge their identity as an independent person. These times away from each other needn't be long periods of time. It might just be a couple of hours a week doing something that each is passionate about. When you frequently indulge in a passion, your overall passion for life increases. As a side effect to your rejuvenating time for yourself, you begin to feel more passionate about your family and life in general; because you regularly stir up those wonderful feelings that make you so happy about living.
So Tomorrow while he is working I will be luxuriating. Afterwards we will be together for the rest of the afternoon and we will probably go to China Town.
It is interesting to me to realize that after 30 years of marriage we still love spending so much time together. Part of the reason is that we know each other so well that we feel an intimacy that one cannot find in any short term relationship. This kind of intimacy takes decades to grow and develop to the degree that our is. We don't feel the need to entertain each other and yet we do. We love to just be with each other regardless of the activity or lack of activity we are enjoying.
Today I will appreciate his thoughtfulness all morning long as I'm being pampered and he is across the bay working. This afternoon we will walk hand in hand through the streets of San Francisco as we have done so many times before. But this time, it won't be the souvenir shopping or the sights that makes this vacation great. It will be the depth of love we have for each other that will make it special.
Creating a life long intimate relationship is something that takes undying commitment to create. It takes a lack of selfishness and an intense desire to please your partner. More than any other relationship in life it takes a tenacious, continual pattern of forgiveness and the ability to be humble and willing enough to change your own negative patterns before you expect him to make changes for you.
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