Saying "I Do Not" May Save Your Life

If you have tuned into any of those detective shows or the real crime dramas lately, you may have notice that after murdering their spouse, the killer makes a statement like this: "The minute I said 'I do' I knew I was making a big mistake."

I have known several people who, during a divorce claimed that they had serious doubts about marrying their partner, but they felt that it was too late to back out - too much hassle to send back presents or to have to talk to the guests and explain yourself while hearing un-asked for opinions that have little to do with your situation.

I have a cousin who had arranged a huge, very costly wedding in a temple that was so popular that she had to jump through hoops to get everything else planned around it. She had friends and family literally from all over the world flying in for the big event. But for weeks she had secretly been having doubts. She didn't even tell her mother or her best friend because she felt so afraid of the ridicule that would come her way if she backed out at this point.

So on her wedding day, kneeling across the alter from her fiancee, she began to cry. These weren't tear's of happiness, they were tears of panic, and a sure knowledge that this was going to become a very bad union.

When it came time for the "I Do" she tearfully said "I can't" She stood and apologized to everyone in the room and told them that she had the strongest feeling that she was marrying the wrong man. It all caused quite a stir, but it wasn't long before the ripples settled down and she was able to see that she had made the right choice.

Her fiancee went on to marry another beautiful young woman, and it wasn't long before she was being physically abused. Within 7 years she was dead, he was in jail and the young children were in shelters.

You have gut feeling for a reason, You need to become aware of them and listen to them. No amount of embarrassment is greater than the death of a young mother or the pain children feel when they are raised in an unhappy home.