Every new bride and groom fantasize that their marriage will be that one made in heaven, the one that lasts forever. In love, and blinded by the intense emotions and hormones that a young couple feels, it is easy to overlook the warning signs that their marriage may be doomed from the start.
Here are some proven, statistical truths that you can use as your guideline before jumping head-over-heals into marriage.
1. No doubt, getting married too young can be the downfall of a relationship later on. at 18 or 19 a humans brain hasn't finished developing yet. Consequently the way we feel, the type of person we are attracted to and the person we are will dramatically change by the time we are 25. Statistics show that the best odds for staying married applies to couples who are around age 28 when they say "I do." Love isn't enough - a long lasting relationship takes a great deal of maturity too.
2. First marriage in the United States have about a 40-50% chance of ending in divorce. If one or both partners have been married once before the likely hood of divorce goes up to about 67%. If their are any children involved the probability of a divorce goes up dramatically from there to between 70-75%. Each subsequent failed marriage a person has gone through increases the chance that a subsequent marriage will end in divorce.
3. The more basic-lifestyle similarities a couple share the better their chances are for marrying for life. Specifically, if they share the same spiritual and/or religious beliefs, have similar cultural, social and racial backgrounds, and they share basic values, their marriage has a better chance of surviving and remaining fulfilling throughout their life together.
I know it is hard to look love in the face and be honest about your relationships probable downfalls, but rationalizing away your choice to marry for the wrong reasons can lead to a devastating conclusion. Beware and Be aware.
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