Couples in conflict-ridden marriages take longer than happily married couples to heal from all kinds of wounds, from minor scrapes or athletic injuries to major surgery. This new research, reported at the American Psychosomatic Society adds to growing evidence that marriage has a huge impact on health.
"Even a simple disagreement slows wound healing," says psychologist Janice Kiecolt-Glaser, of Ohio State University College of Medicine.
In this study, hostile couples who use criticism, sarcasm and put-downs, healed the slowest. It took them 40 percent longer - two more days - to heal.
On the upside, good marriages can decrease your blood pressure, increase your immune system and even lower your risk for major diseases such as cancer and heart attack. "You may not be able to get away from the job stress," says Dr. Baker, "but a good marriage soothes people which minimizing the effects of stress from their job."
People just don’t realize how much their marriage can affect the rest of their life. Dr. Kayser has studied how couples cope with the stress of a wife's diagnosis of breast cancer. She writes, "How the marriage helps or hurts tends to come out more during a crisis," she says, "but our marriages are affecting our health and well-being all the time."
Recipe for A Happy Marriage: 1 cup consideration
1 cup courtesy
2 cupfuls flattery carefully concealed
1 gallon faith and trust in each other
2 cupfuls praise
1 small pinch of in-laws
1 reasonable budget, a generous dash of cooperation
3 teaspoon pure extract of "I'm sorry"
1 cup contentment
1 cup each confidence and encouragement
1 large or several small hobbies
1 cup blindness to the other's faults
Flavor with frequent portions of recreation and a dash of happy memories. Stir well and remove any specks of jealousy, temper or criticism. Sweeten well with generous portions of love and keep warm with a steady flame of devotion. Never serve with cold shoulder.
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